Sex Before Getting Married you opinion about the matter?
Posted 21 October 2007 - 09:58 AM
Trust me I got laid before I was married and it saved my life...its a long complicated story but yeah.
Posted 28 October 2007 - 10:26 PM
I'm not saying go out and test drive every car on the lot but, well, when you find that person, you want it be a good fit right? On the other hand I guess it all matters on how much sex means to you too.
Posted 31 October 2007 - 07:32 AM
I believe sex before marriage is a completely acceptable thing. I, myself, don't really plan on getting marriage. The legal ties are so restricting and frustrating that a perfectly happy couple can become strained and aggrivated after marriage. Such a silly thing to happen over a piece of paper, but it does happen.
I also believe that we are, no matter how educated and advanced, still animals. Sex is a form of reproduction, of keeping the species going. Yes, we also derive pleasure from such an act, it is enjoyable. Is there anything wrong with that? It's simply... natural.
I hold particular values for myself, I will not have sex with just anyone, I am picky. I am now with a boyfriend who was my first, and of whom I've been dating for 6 years now, on and off. We are both open and enjoy each other fully, and I do plan on staying with him for life.
Another point, many people want to enjoy sex. And many people who wait until after marriage find themselves unsatisfied by one reason or another. They may love their significant other in heart and mind, but in body... it causes a tension because they did not know anything about that part of their relationship and then find themselves unhappy but bound to that person through marriage. I'm not saying this happens to everyone, but it is just another reason for my views.
Posted 31 October 2007 - 02:53 PM
Posted 11 November 2007 - 03:36 PM
Getting experience in this kind of matter is important for life as a couple, most of the relationships fails because of sexual frustration, so if you want your marriage to last without cheating sex before marriage is your best bet.
Besides marriage is something higly related to its religious roots in most "virgin til marriage" arguments, not seeing the social contract it implies nowadays, since now you dont even need to be a believer to get married.
When discussing this with arguments you have to leave personal and religious dogma out.
Posted 12 November 2007 - 06:51 PM
if you want to marry some1 you should first found out as much as you can about her.
you should first try if you 2 are 1for other. sex is not first thing in life but is still wary important.
not having sex before marriage is saim like not knowing who you are marring.
Posted 12 November 2007 - 10:46 PM
Posted 16 January 2008 - 01:21 PM
You're ready when you're ready, but I'm not one for treating it as a most sacred expression of love.
Posted 16 January 2008 - 04:45 PM
"Do you think what you did was right?"
At the time yes, but I'm not so sure now.
"Do you feel any guilt after doing so?"
I felt more betrayed than guilty. I thought she was supposed be attached to me.
I read that somewhere. She wasn't.
We did it one time and then she left me.
She didn't see me as marriage material as I was younger than her.
I agree with spam shredder, Sex before getting married can cause a lot of problems.
Less than 100 years ago, but that doesn't mean you're immune, nor that it
will stay that way.
by the way,
I see a lot of nonsense posted here. What's with you guys?
It's almost if they're spreading false information deliberately.
"Sexual frustration #1 cause of breakups?" Wahahahahahahaha
"Abstinence #1 cause for cheating?" Give me a break
"the "sex is sacred" stuff is just a hype to keep the numbers down?"
Kapow! I killed you! Does that make me bad?
Pedophile argument.... for starters
Can't teach my partner a thing argument.
And cars and women are two completely different things.
Test driving a car is like figuring out if your girlfriend if you can walk not sleep with her.
This is more or less about finding out whether the horn works.
Okay, you may not get as much satisfaction from honking, but think of the similarities. It makes a lot of noise when you push the button. It's a bit of a taboo and admit it, it's fun .
So do you test THAT before buying a car?
Posted 17 January 2008 - 08:05 PM
However, what bugging me is that some people think that we MUST have sex before getting married. some people think that sex is just about the pleasure, and some people think that having sex before getting married equals to testing car before buying the car. Sex is different from buying a car. For me, at least, I won't just sleep with some random people (they have to be cute & have couple of Bentleys, J/K, they have to be the one I like). So, lemme ask u a question. Do you like ur significant other because they sleep with you or Do you sleep with em cuz u like em? If u like them because they sleep with you then when they are away like far away, meaning they are "temporarily" unable to sleep with you, u can just sleep with some random people and like them afterwards. Anyway,
Posted 19 January 2008 - 10:48 AM
Posted 19 January 2008 - 11:45 PM
Posted 27 January 2008 - 02:32 AM
And just think if cave men did not do it before they were maried we prob woulden't be here.lolAlso having sex makes a Relation ship stronger......(as the net said)
This post has been edited by Talc: 27 January 2008 - 02:36 AM
Posted 28 January 2008 - 06:05 PM
Its to protect u and to try and provide a secure enviroment for ur unborn..
.. becaus tht the point of sex, procreation, tht and to express and enjoy physical attraction and love for another.
Look everyone tday tends to do it and even tho i find myself in the minority i know tht im safe from STDS and unplannd pregnancies.
Its an ideal to protect most young ppl (and adults i gues).
Wat would be cool is if everyone willing to hav sex before marriage would be just as willing to take care of the their unborn young if the circumstance occurs.
Posted 29 January 2008 - 04:00 AM
Not bad for my first post on this forum.